In this article, I tell a story to illustrate how we take on other people’s fears, which actually makes them irrational fears for us.
You’ll also discover one of my personal irrational fears and a great little tip to reduce anxiety associated with irrational fears…
One of the first things I like to help clients do is change their perception of anxiety and panic.
We so often perceive anxiety and panic to be a thorn in our side and the bane of our existence. But the harsh judgment we have of anxiety and panic actually keeps it in our lives longer…
Whether we realise it or not, our subconscious brain is listening to every single thing we say to ourselves and believes ALL of it to be true… Gulp. Yes, that’s right. That’s a little bit scary and why it’s so important to consciously listen to your self-talk.
Let me give you an example of subconscious messages we tell ourselves…
For any of us to choose to commit to something we must decide that the benefits are going to outweigh the extra time, resources and effort we need to put into it. It needs to fulfil a need and be aligned with our vision and values. You know, the stuff worth fighting for – for example, family, health, fulfilment, time, wealth.
Learn the 5 key benefits of personal development and the ultimate endgame…
Trauma experienced in childhood can have numerous negative flow-on effects – some of which don’t become obvious until adulthood.
If you get stressed or overwhelmed easily, lack emotional resilience, lack self-belief and worth, have difficulty forming relationships or suffer anxiety and panic attacks, then unresolved childhood trauma may be the root cause…
Trauma is often experienced in more than just one way. Think of a serious car accident. There is the obvious physical trauma but also emotional and mental trauma, especially if you were at fault. There is also the potential trauma of your life being very different due to your injuries.
Trauma often has multiple layers and so a holistic approach to overcoming trauma is needed…
Our shadow represents the aspects of ourselves that we don’t like and judge, so we reject and repress them and try to hide them away. However, any time we reject ourselves, we’re more likely to feel anxious.
Learning to transform your shadow and see its gifts will help you feel more relaxed within yourself and at ease with others…
Healthy boundaries allow you to feel physically, mentally and emotionally safe. They also help you to stay in your power and be authentic in difficult circumstances at work and at home.
Equally as important, developing healthy boundaries also helps you to contain yourself so that you don’t offend, encroach or hurt others by crossing their boundaries…
If you feel anxious much of the time, you actually develop strong neural pathways and reactive habits that get programmed into your whole system – to the point that your body is ‘anxious on autopilot.’ This creates mental, emotional and physical imbalances.
Anxiety treatment with a holistic counselling approach aims to address the problematic symptoms AND the root causes so you can feel whole and get your life back…
In general, anxiety is a negative mood state characterised by bodily symptoms of physical tension and apprehensive thoughts about the future. Anxiety is associated with an overactive imagination and fear based on an inability to predict or control upcoming events.
Learn to differentiate anxiety from other mental health issues, the symptoms of anxiety and the causes of anxiety…
